Love That Starts With You


Hi Free Spirit!

With Valentine’s season around the corner, love is everywhere. Most of it points toward romance and being chosen by someone else.

But there is another kind of love that matters just as much.

The kind that starts with you.

We are taught that love is something we receive from another person. But real love begins with how you treat yourself. It lives in your choices, your boundaries, and whether you honor what feels true.

Self love is not just kind moments or positive thoughts. It is self trust. It is self respect. It is listening to your inner voice and taking it seriously.

It looks like saying no when something feels wrong.
It looks like walking away from what drains you.
It looks like choosing growth over comfort.
It looks like building a life that feels honest.

Love is not only about connection with someone else. It is about connection with yourself.

When you trust yourself, you stop abandoning your desires.
When you respect yourself, you stop settling.
When you choose yourself, everything else begins to shift.

This season, instead of asking who will love you, try asking something different.

How can I show up for myself today?
What would it look like to trust myself here?

Because the deepest form of love is not being chosen.

It is choosing yourself.


The episodes this week offer grounded, thoughtful perspectives on healing, resilience, and living on your own terms.

Warmly,

Kristyn

Flying Upstream Podcast

Welcome to 'Flying Upstream,' a podcast dedicated to uncovering the choices, practices, and wisdom that defy mainstream norms. Join hosts Kristyn Medeiros and Luisa Anderson as they explore how timeless wisdom and unique lifestyle choices foster healthier, sustainable, and enriching lives. Perfect for those who feel like they're flying north for the winter while everyone else is flying south. Tune in to discover inspiring stories, gain practical insights, and connect with a community of free spirits who value deep, thoughtful explorations into alternative ways of living. Listen on platforms like Apple Podcasts and Spotify, or join us for more engaging content through our mini courses on Udemy.

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